Find Your True Gift: The 3 Gifts


Uploaded by TonyRobbinsLive on 13.11.2012

Transcript:
This is life AND enterprise management.
And so, as a result,
we want to make sure we work on both.
We want to create a system that allows you to succeed in both areas: life
and your enterprise.
By the way, which one would you say is more valuable? ("Life!") Which one? ("Life!")
That's not how most people live the game.
Most people make it the enterprise.
And as they make it the enterprise,
they wake up and they have a tremendous amount of
economic success-if they're successful
and what's ironic is what makes you successful may not make you fulfilled.
And so, there's a big pull in our culture to go for what's most successful,
what will reward you culturally
with respect or acknowledgement or stars on your chart or economic rewards
thinking that will give us freedom,
but how many of you have been very successful in business and not been free?
I.e.,
your business, as it got more successful, demanded even more from you?
How many of you have had this experience? Say "aye." ("Aye.")
So what I really want to make sure comes out of this
is an evaluation of what your real gifts are that are going to fulfill you,
because many of you are living a script around your life
that involves having an enterprise
when really that may not be your true nature.
That's not to say you can't do it.
It just means you can do it and you'll be stressed out of your life,
stressed out of your mind.
And so, one of the things we want to find out is how much of that is natural
as a problem.
How much of that is maybe unnatural?
Unnatural meaning
you're having problems right now that you shouldn't be having at this stage of development.
Think about it: if a child is brand new
and have a problem with controlling their bladder,
that's a natural problem, isn't it?
But, if you're fifty and you have this problem,
you've got a challenge! If a brand new business has a cashflow challenge,
it's a problem, but it's a natural problem.
If it's a business that's been around 5 or 10 years and it's got a cashflow problem,
you've got a real abnormal problem. Maybe you've got a problem that's even life-threatening
to the business.
How many follow what I'm talking about here?
Sometimes, those problems have to do with the fact that you don't understand
the stage of development you're in. The most important element is for you to be able to do this:
to be able to establish, most importantly,
where you really are in your life today.
Where are you
and where do you really want to go?
What's going to create this extraordinary life
and to look at it brand new,
because some of you right now, if you continue the direction you're going,
are going to be successful and unfulfilled, unhappy and stressed,
because once we get, you know, into a dream,
then that dream starts to take on a life of its own. It gives us juice,
it gives us energy, but
how many ever got the dream,
achieved your goal,
and then thought, "is this all there is?" How many have ever had this experience? Say "aye." ("Aye.")
That's more painful than not even achieving it!
'Cause now you've done, you've worked it out, you're successful and you're not happy.
So, for some of you, you're gonna need to take a look at that.
Michael Gerber, the guy who wrote The E-Myth, talks about why so many
businesses, young businesses fail, and one of these things he says is most people
are not really entrepreneurs, but they think that's what they should be.
They think that's the sexy thing, that's the most attractive thing,
that's the best answer.
And when I say to you is you've got to separate the vehicle
from the outcome.
What is it that's going to truly fulfill you? What is it that's going to give you that
extraordinary life?
What's going to make things magnificent on your terms, not somebody else's terms,
not your father, your mother, your background.
What is that really?
Separate the vehicles, as there's many ways to get that vehicle.
I was here in town just the other day and I met a gentleman over here.
Steve Wynn's a good friend of mine who started
well, basically, built most of Las Vegas. And he built just recently, you know,
the Wynn Casino a few years back.
2.7 billion dollar hotel.
The most expensive individual building ever personally financed. Individually financed.
To give you an idea, the first estimates on the rebuilding of the World Trade Center
were $1.7 billion. $2.6 billion for a hotel.
Right, this man has
the ability to take large risks
and he has the ability to really succeeded in a major way.
But I bring that up because I was in town and
for our new home we were getting some...
We have these hot springs, we were getting some really large crystals and
there's a guy in town that has this crystal shop, right?
But you've got to make an appointment to see the guy!
It's unbelievable, so I get to know him and talk to him and find out he's great friends with Steve.
He's been skiing with Steve for 20 years. This guy used to have this business.
He sold the business. Didn't actually make that much money, but he was tired of the stress of the business
And he said "I'm just going to do what I love." And what I love to do is ski. Everyday.
So, what he did was he started his little crystal business, made plenty of money, you know
this litte business, set aside some money from his previous business and he
gets up every day and skis, has a blast,
and he has this unbelievable lifestyle.
Because, you know he's Steve Wynn's guest everywhere. He flies on the Gulfstream,
doesn't have to pay for it.
Doesn't pay the insurance, doesn't have to pay for the fuel, doesn't worry about maintenance,
managing it, or anything.
And he's telling me about all these things he does in his life. He has a billion-dollar lifestyle.
Billionaire's lifestyle.
But he structured his life in a way that's fulfilling, where he as time for his grandkids
where he has time for his wife, where he has time for his passions,
but he just does it in a different way. He had this big dream, he said, of making this gigantic business
and all it did was stress him out.
Now, I'm not saying that's the answer for you,
but I'm saying sometimes you gotta reevaluate what's going to really make
you fulfilled.
What is your gift?
Are you an artist, are you the talent
that can produce something no one else produces—a skill or product or service
or some impact?
Are you incredibly good at management?
You really know how to manage or lead people.
Are you an extraordinary entrepeneur that can take that gigantic gut load of risk
and can create the vision and attract the talent that you need and the managers
and leaders.
You may have all three abilities,
but which one really fulfills you the most
is going to the critical question.
'Cause we tend to want to do them all, especially with a room like this
because you're all overachievers, right? Me too.
And you say, "Well, I can do all these."
Yes, you can,
but what will it do to your quality of life?
See, again,
the secret's going to be this:
what is an extraordinary life on your terms today?