Weight Loss and Exercise after an Operation - How to do a 15 minute EFT Tapping Session


Uploaded by rodsherwin on 27.07.2011

Transcript:
... but how to do a 15 minute session of EFT? Because itís lovely when weíve got an hour,
then we can pre-frame it and we can do all these wonderful set up things, but when youíve
got 15 minutes and youíve got to give somebody an experience of EFT how are you going about
doing that? And itís lovely to integrate all these other procedures and things that
we learn but Iím just wondering if weíre slightly missing the most simplistic way of
applying EFT which is find an event and tap on it. And the skill of questions to get to
an event within the first five minutes of EFT and then tap on it and then finish up
the session leaving them in a good state. Thereís an art for it; itís another one
of the art forms of EFT. And Iíll actually show you; so I want you to pay attention to
the way I do this in two different ways. Mostly pay attention to the process, not the content,
because the questions I ask and the way I pre-frame it and set up for a 15 minute session
will sort of give you an idea how to do it. And this is something ñ youíre at a party
and a friend comes up and says, ìIíve got an issue,î 15 minutes and letís get back
to the party! Or you meet somebody in the supermarket and you can do this in the supermarket
aisle, or whatever, or go and grab a coffee. Or someone sits out in the front of the room
and says, ìIím going to leave now...î So, who has an issue you would like to focus
on? Iíll do it.
Alright. Youíre going to help me? And the way I pre-frame this is we only have 15 minutes
and while EFT is wonderful itís not yet a magic wand. Iíd love to be able to wave a
magic wand and make all your issues go away, but we have 15 minutes. So weíll focus on
one specific event, give you an experience of EFT, and weíll see where we go from there.
Okay. And is there something youíd like to focus
on? At the moment Iím working on my post-hysterectomy
weight gain. Alright. I mean that actually sounds quite
easy because you do have an event that you focus on. And is it something that you feel
like you were eating from the post-hysterectomy, or from the hysterectomy?
Lack of exercise. Lack of exercise.
So I didnít exercise. Okay.
And yes, I suppose, well the weight issue has plagued me for generations I imagine.
And weight issues are one of those classics where people are going that they want to lose
weight and youíve only given me 15 minutes. Right, run on the spot for 15 minutes and
weíll sort that out. The immediate thing is the post-hysterectomy.
The post-hysterectomy? Yes.
So have you tapped on the actual hysterectomy? No. Oh yes, as I was going into surgery I
was tapping and later, yeah I did. Alright, well just as a warm up, just as a
first layer - because I imagine there could be some intensity around this so I just want
to make it very high level ñ at the thought of thinking about the hysterectomy as a whole
is there any remaining intensity on that? I feel Iím happy.
Alright. Just drop down a little bit closer and run the event of actually going into the
hospital and having surgery. Anything coming up around that? Just whatever comes up.
That I might die under the anaesthetic. Thatís a pretty good one. So letís just
start with that. Now, pay attention while we tap to whatever comes up - because often
weíre going to tap on one thing and thereíll be another level and then thereíll be another
level ñ and let go of any preconceived notions of what should come up, because weíre dealing
with emotions and emotions make no sense so I reckon you should leave logic outside the
door and just focus on the next issue. So weíll start tapping, and you can tap in whichever
style you like. So even though... Even though...
I can still remember... I can still remember...
Going in for my hysterectomy... Going in for my hysterectomy...
And the feeling I had then... And the feeling I had then...
I choose to love and accept myself... I choose to love and accept myself...
And all the remaining ways I feel about that event.
And all the remaining ways I feel about that event.
Even though... Even though...
It might be linked to troubles with my weight... It might be linked to troubles with my weight...
Even if itís not... Even if itís not...
Itís still a good event to clear. Itís still a good event to clear.
Even though... Even though...
I still have some intensity around that event... I still have some intensity around that event...
The fear of dying... The fear of dying...
Going into that anaesthetic state... Going into that anaesthetic state...
Wondering if Iíd wake up... Wondering if Iíd wake up...
No wonder I was afraid... No wonder I was afraid...
I deeply and completely accept myself... I deeply and completely accept myself...
I choose to feel safe and secure... I choose to feel safe and secure...
Even if I still have some of this fear... Even if I still have some of this fear...
Of going into the surgery. Of going into the surgery.
Come up to the top of the head. So, fear of going into that surgery.
Fear of going into the surgery. Fear of going into the surgery.
Fear of going into the surgery. Fear of going into the surgery.
Fear of going into the surgery. Thatís a little bit further forward that
one. Right near the crease in the eyes. Fear of going into the surgery.
Under the eyes. Just keep going through them. Fear of going into the surgery. Fear of going
into the surgery. Fear of going into the surgery. Fear of going into the surgery. Iíll do the
monkey. Yeah, I just canít reach back that far and
I tend to do the inside of
the wrist as well. Fear of going into the surgery.
And is there a particular memory coming up? What I remember, I was really fine...
And hereís another trick ñ tap while youíre telling me this. Come back up to the top of
the head. I was just outside the room before I went
in and one of the nurses who was really good said to this guy, ìSo what are you doing
here?î He said, ìIím the critical assistî and I went... I did find out later that they
go to all the ones, I thought, ìIím special.î This shock I got...
This shock I got... Hearing the critical assist was there...
Hearing the critical assist was there... The more frightened I got from that...
The more frightened I got from that... That fright from hearing the critical assist...
That fright from hearing the critical assist... That fright from hearing the critical assist...
That fright from hearing the critical assist... Keep going.
That fright from hearing the critical assist... Is fright the right word or would it be different.
Oh yeah. That fright from hearing the critical assist...
Those words... Those words...
Freaking me out... Freaking me out...
I was all calm up to then... I was quite fine about the robot...
At least I knew how to tap... At least I knew how to tap...
I could help myself out... I could help myself out...
All this remaining fright... All this remaining fright...
Hearing that critical assist... Hearing that critical assist...
All this remaining fright... All that remaining fright...
Hearing the critical assist... Hearing the critical assist...
Hear the change in the voice? All that remaining fright...
All that remaining fright... Hearing that critical assist...
Hearing that critical assist... All this remaining fright...
All this remaining fright... Thinking about that memory...
Thinking about that memory... Going into surgery...
Going into surgery... Hearing that nurse say...
Hearing that nurse say... Iím just here to bring her back...
Iím just here to bring her back... Iím the critical assist...
Iím the critical assist... Good, so just check in on that one. Alright,
so around that memory again, going into the hospital, the nurse is there, ìIím here
for the critical assist.î Iím here for the critical assist. No, itís
okay. Anything left on that at all?
No. Itís good. Okay, running it forward just a little bit
further. Introducing me to the robot is fine. We had
a laugh, we gave it a name. What was the name?
I canít remember. Robbie the robot.
Waking up. All good after that, yeah. Okay.
I woke up. You woke up.
Yeah. How are you feeling about waking up? What
was the first thought on waking up? I was attended to by a woman who said this
most amazing experience ñ ìMy name is Helen as well and our name means light and I do
Reiki and Iím going to look after you.î Oh, wow! How nice is that.
Yeah, we had the most amazing night of talk and morphine induced... But I have never felt
looked after as well as that. It was just, you know, I had such gratitude. I was crying
with gratitude. It was good. So, moving on from that. In terms of just
weight loss as a whole, is there some particular food that you feel youíre eating too much
of, or is it not doing enough exercise? What do you think?
Probably exercise, more or less. Basically... Is it a feeling of over-eating?
Probably itís a feeling of television eating; so when I watch TV I feel hungry. Iíve just
done some hypnosis on that and thatís been really good actually. Iím only in about day
three of feeling terrific about it all so thatís good.
And the exercise? Getting back to it.
Okay. So itís all there.
And is there a couple of times just recently you felt, ìIím going to exercise todayî
and then the wheels have fallen off? Yes, itís just about time.
Can you think of one just recently or today? I was going to get up this morning and I didnít.
So what day was that? Wednesday.
Okay, cool. See the questions I was asking, getting more specific? So, Wednesday?
Yes. So starting tapping, whichever way you do
it. So that Wednesday morning, did that thought come up when you were in bed/out of bed/later
in the day? I forgot to get up. I forgot to do that.
So when you think about ëI forgot to get upí whatís the emotion or the thoughts?
ëYou idiot! What do you think youíre doing?í So, even though...
Even though... I forgot to get up...
I forgot to get up... Last week...
To walk. I got up! I forgot to get up to walk... Last Wednesday...
Last Wednesday... And I called myself all these names...
And I called myself all these names... You idiot...
You idiot... How are we ever going to lose weight...
How are we ever going to lose weight... If I donít get up for a walk?
If I donít get up for a walk? All this blame and recrimination...
All this blame and recrimination... I choose to love and forgive myself...
I choose to love and forgive myself... Iím doing the best I can...
Iím doing the best I can... And sometimes I just need to rest...
And sometimes I just need to rest... Wanting to take good care of myself...
Wanting to take good care of myself... My mindís saying I should exercise...
My mindís saying I should exercise... My body is saying I need the rest...
My body is saying I need the rest... All these ëshouldísí I have...
All these ëshouldísí I have... Should have got up...
Should have got up... Should have gone for a walk...
Should have gone for a walk... Slept in...
Slept in... You idiot!
You idiot! Forgot to get up and go for a walk...
Forgot to get up and go for a walk... I deeply and completely accept myself...
I deeply and completely accept myself... Last Wednesday...
Last Wednesday... Forgetting to get up...
Forgetting to get up... I choose to love and accept myself...
I choose to love and accept myself... All these remaining thoughts in my head...
All these remaining thoughts in my head... Judging myself so harshly...
Judging myself so harshly... You idiot!
You idiot! How dare I call myself that!
How dare I call myself that! So just bring that memory to mind again; lying
in bed, forgotten to wake up. Oops. Itís okay.
Anything left on that at all? No.
So at the thought of getting up ñ I donít know, when are you next planning to go for
a walk, or thinking of planning of going for a walk, or doing any form of exercise?
Monday. Okay. And at the thought of trying to make
it happen on Monday, anything coming up around that?
Oh God, Iíve got to make a commitment to myself.
Even though itís a chore... Even though itís a chore...
To exercise... To exercise...
I have to force myself to do it... I have to force myself to do it...
I have to make a commitment... I have to make a commitment...
And if it doesnít happen... And if it doesnít happen...
I want to beat myself up... And I know I was so good because I do my commitments.
Part of me is still battling with this... Part of me still battles...
I know if I make a commitment Iím going to have to do it...
I know if I make a commitment Iím going to have to do it...
I donít want to... I donít want to...
I want to lay in bed a bit longer... I want to lie in bed...
I choose to love and accept myself. I choose to love and accept myself.
Struggling to make this commitment... Struggling to make this commitment...
Part of me wanting to do the exercise... Part of me wanting to do the exercise...
Part of me not wanting to do it... Part of me not wanting to do it...
I donít want to make the commitment... I donít want to make the commitment...
Itís just another chore... Itís just another chore...
Itís just another thing Iím forcing myself to do..
Itís just another thing Iím forcing myself to do..
On my to do list... On my to do list...
Which starts even before I wake up... Which starts even before I wake up...
Just another commitment... Just another commitment...
No wonder I donít want to exercise... No wonder I donít want to exercise...
I deeply and completely accept myself... I deeply and completely accept myself...
This remaining conflict within myself... This remaining conflict within myself...
Wanting to exercise... Wanting to exercise...
But donít want another commitment... But donít want another commitment...
All this remaining conflict within myself... All this remaining conflict within myself...
What if exercise wasnít a commitment? What if exercise wasnít a commitment?
I donít know... I donít know...
Itís up to me... Yeah, itís up to me...
I deeply and completely accept myself... I deeply and completely accept myself...
All this remaining conflict... All this remaining conflict...
Making a commitment... Making a commitment...
Just doing it for fun... Just doing it for fun... Thatís good.
Okay. So probably at about that point I think weíre pretty close to 15 minutes. Iíd be
going, ìSo did you feel a shift there in terms of EFT and how would you like to pay?î
Without taking a breath! Itís always the next question.
Thatís good. So sometimes it can be that simple. How did
that feel from your point of view? Fantastic. It was just what I needed.
So weíll have five minutes and then Iíll do another one for an example, but questions/reflections/comments
from the gallery? Audience: Yeah, I loved your pre-frame about
emotions not being logical so trust whatever comes in. It was good, even though it was
very short, that you got those pre-frames in. Itís great.
Thank you. Please give Helen a hand.
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