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CuriousColours
on 25.07.2011
Transcript:
Just continuing from Part 1 of this video
I got cut off!!
I was just saying how going to parties or going to a pub
isn't something particularly pleasant for me
This is mostly because there are way too many people
and also because it's noisy
Actually, i think the noise is probably the worst bit
If there's lots of people, I am happy to mingle a bit
Or just go and talk to somebody I know for most of the night
That is not a problem for me
Although I can't do it all night long!
I do sometimes enjoy it depending on the context
The sort of socialising I tend to do
is a more focused and more toned down version of what other people would do
And by that, I mean that I would generally meet somewhere
during the day, when it's quiet
and it would be with one or two other people
generally one other person because it's hard for me to focus
on lots of different people at the same time
I can't switch from one conversation to another
I have no idea how neurotypical people manage to do this
but I find it a bit too much! it's quite overwhelming
From time to time, I have to do that
but I would never prefer that to spending time with just one friend
and spending a longer period of time with them
Also, another thing I don't do, generally speaking, is
I don't meet people for coffee for 30 minutes
because it seems a bit meaningless
unless it's with somebody I know really really well
and we're close friends and we haven't caught up for ages
and that's the only chance we get to meet
I have done that before- with those exceptions
but generally speaking, the whole "Let's do coffee and chat for 30 minutes and leave" thing...
I don't know...I think it's because we (Aspies) tend to want to discuss things
in a lot of detail and discuss serious, intellectual things
And if you meet somebody for 30 minutes, you can't really do that
You would only start getting into that and then you have to go
because you've finished your coffee or you've got to run somewhere else.
Also, I find things such as going on holiday, to the beach...
(Somebody else asked me about this recently)
I wouldn't really do that. I have done it, but I wouldn't do it (out of choice).
Purely because it seems that there is no real, structured purpose
If I were to go away somewhere, it would have to be because of something that I am learning
There would have to be some sort of clear, intellectual stimulation
in order for me to do that- to go away somewhere
I went travelling around the Middle East and spent 2 months in Israel
I went to some really obscure places and I went and studied
That is the kind of thing I would generally do
I wouldn't go to any touristy places and instead go somewhere off the beaten track
I guess somewhere obscure and interesting and in some ways, quirky
So yeah, I think I am going to end this now
So my point is that if you ever meet somebody
and they tell you that they are autistic
Don't assume that just because they don't look it
and they're doing well socially and they're independent and they're successful
that does not mean that they don't have all sorts of issues
going on when you don't see them
it's not that we don't have a good life
Some things are hard, some things are not
Some things we find easy, some things we find difficult
But if you see somebody and they're "doing well socially" and they're friendly
Think twice about judging them and assuming that they are not struggling in other areas.
THANK YOU :-)