Easy Perfect Wedding Toast /Experts Katrin Kern Chris Korbel My Mass Appeal NBC

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>>SETH STUTMAN: Well back to Mass Appeal. Have you ever been at a wedding where there
was an open-mic situation and people are giving toast but you found yourself lost for words
and the moment just went by? Well, today we are going to eliminate that problem and teach
you how to give great toast with some toast experts Katrin Kern and Chris Korbel. Thanks
to you both for coming on the show today.
>>CHRIS KORBEL: Oh, it’s a pleasure.
>>KATRIN KERN: Thank you for having us.
>>SETH STUTMAN: Yeah, I know. It is so great for you to be here because a lot of people
get so nervous when they get up in front of the crowd. Why is that?
>>KATRIN KERN: Well, you know, there is an inherent vulnerability in giving a toast.
You are sharing yourself, your heart, your feelings, your thoughts, your stories, and
you may not know everyone in the room.
>>SETH STUTMAN: That’s true.
>>KATRIN KERN: So it is actually quite exposing.
>>CHRIS KORBEL: Yes. It is about as high pressure as you can get. I mean, for most people, that’s
their greatest fear, its public speaking.
>>KATRIN KERN: Yes and there’s also the element like the fear of disappointing the
person you are toasting.
>>SETH STUTMAN: That’s true too.
>>KATRIN KERN: Or their parents or you know anyone in the room. You wouldn’t want anyone
to be disappointed.
>>SETH STUTMAN: And so you don’t think about the inherent pressures that come with it.
You know, at my wedding, my best man, and the man or maid of honor gave toasts but every
eye is on that person. It is like when you are walking down the aisle every eye is on
you at that point.
>>KATRIN KERN: That’s right.
>>KATRIN KERN: There is one really good, little quick exercise that I offer which is that
if you can capture the feeling of the nervousness wherever it is in your body like for me it
tends to be like in my, right in my solar plexus…
>>KATRIN KERN: And you can sort of like put your hands over it and imagine moving the
nervousness to your heart and it transforming into excitement.
>>SETH STUTMAN: Interesting.
>>KATRIN KERN: Doing just like the visual and taking a few moments to deep breathe can
really like switch the energy.
>>SETH STUTMAN: So let’s say we get there, we’ve got the energy, and we’ve mastered
the courage to do it, what are some dos and don’ts at toast giving?
>>CHRIS KORBEL: Okay. Well, why don’t you start.
>>KATRIN KERN: Well, okay. So now let’s say you are not the bride, or you are not
the maid of honor, or the best man, and you just want to offer a toast a gathering or
at a wedding reception. You should never tap on a glass.
>>SETH STUTMAN: I would tap on a glass. It is the first thing I do.
>>KATRIN KERN: You know, it is so common and so many people do it but it’s actually not
the proper etiquette. You are actually supposed to take your glass and rise in your place,
and raise your glass, and it might take a moment, but you will get the attention of
the room eventually.
>>SETH STUTMAN: And so you just wait, you don’t say anything, you don’t do anything.
You just stand and raise your glass.
>>KATRIN KERN: Yes. And the other thing that is so funny is that because in some cultures
tapping on the glass is actually a sign for the bride and groom to kiss. When you are
at a wedding what can start happening is if you tap on the glass everyone else starts
tapping on the glass and then the bride and the groom kiss and then you never get like
the whole moment when you are trying to give your toast and just like, “Okay, start over
>>CHRIS KORBEL: So believe it or not even though in every movie and TV show you hear
it, you are not actually supposed to say, “I would like to propose a toast.”
>>SETH STUTMAN: You don’t do that either?
>>KATRIN KERN: No, because it is actually what you should do is stand, raise your glass,
and propose the toast.
>>SETH STUTMAN: Because the act of you standing is, it is your saying that I would like to
propose a toast?
>>KATRIN KERN: Yes, exactly. That’s your intention.
>>CHRIS KORBEL: I mean, if you are standing up, you got a drink in your hand, and you
are talking we kind of figure out what you are up to.
>>SETH STUTMAN: Yes, exactly. You are not playing checkers; you know what you are doing.
>>KATRIN KERN: Often someone else in the room will start directing the attention towards
you. You know, it is just you got to feel it out, some of those things.
>>SETH STUTMAN: Yeah, and you wait for it. And obviously you want to limit or avoid profanity
and off topic stories.
>>KATRIN KERN: Off course. And you know, another little note on this, if you are at a formal
wedding really you need to check in with whoever is planning the party to make sure that there
is maybe a time where they would like you to stand up and make an impromptu toast.
>>SETH STUTMAN: That’s true.
>>KATRIN KERN: Or they might say, “I’m so sorry. We are so completely…” like
everything is planned and it is flowing you know. Maybe it is for the rehearsal dinner
or it is for you know, the engagement party or another event leading up to a wedding.
>>CHRIS KORBEL: And you don’t want to be a jerk.
>>SETH STUTMAN: Exactly. Nobody wants to be a jerk. You always have your heart at the
right place when you are making a toast. You have a five finger system to give a great
toast and let’s go through it.
>>KATRIN KERN: Okay, we call this the Bon Vivant’s Secrets.
>>SETH STUTMAN: All right.
>>KATRIN KERN: And really, it is something we have created. It can be used for any occasion.
When you are using it for a wedding, right?
>>CHRIS KORBEL: Oh, when you are using it for a wedding it is just slightly different
because normally when you are giving this, you are giving it to an individual, so in
this case you are giving it to a couple with the same idea. Hey, just quick aside when
you do give a toast always remember you are actually addressing the other people in the
room, you are not actually addressing the person or your toasting. You can take like
a brief moment to make a point to them, but in general when you are doing this, it is
about them, and you are talking to the audience.
>>KATRIN KERN: To the listeners.
>>CHRIS KORBEL: So I am going to take this hand here, my dominant hand, it has five points,
and they are sequential. You start with the pinky. This little guy is you and your relationship
to the person or the couple you are honoring.
>>CHRIS KORBEL: This fellow over here, this is like an anecdote. This is the most memorable
memory you have, the fondest memory you have, or the most positive experience and why that
matters to you.
>>KATRIN KERN: Yeah, the most positive one you recall in the moment.
>>CHRIS KORBEL: Right. Now this one here, this is what you find amusing about them.
Yeah, this is maybe a more like corky end.
>>SETH STUTMAN: Okay, I like it.
>>CHRIS KORBEL: And again, tread carefully. You don’t want to embarrass them.
>>SETH STUTMAN: Yes, exactly.
>>CHRIS KORBEL: And this fellow over here, this is their most impressive. Whatever it
is about this person or the couple that you find really impressive and then we slow back
here to the thumb because after all you are going to extend now your glass to everybody
in the room and you are going to make a wish or a hope for the couple or whoever you are
>>SETH STUTMAN: All right.
>>CHRIS KORBEL: You are going to invite the rest of us in the room to join you.
>>SETH STUTMAN: Hey, well tonight we are going to put in the practice right now. Ashley come
on out here.
>>KATRIN KERN: Okay, so there are a couple little quick things you need to know.
>>KATRIN KERN: So that hand that you are using, that you use to sort of like create the toast
really quickly to yourself in your head and then you use to prompt to, when I do it, I
put it kind of down by my side and kind of out of the way so they cannot see it. Chris
puts it actually behind this back like a guy can get away with sort of putting it in his
pocket or behind his back and holding the glass up. Now, one thing we need to tell you
since you are both toasting each other is that when a toast is made to you in etiquette
states that you don’t raise your glass and you don’t stand or drink to yourself. You
just smile, or you say thank you, or the best response is actually a toast in return, and
that’s what we are going to do.
>>SETH STUTMAN: Let’s do it. Yes. We might, hopefully we have time for two. But first
I would like a toast for Ashley Nicole, so take me through it.
>>KATRIN KERN: Who are you in a relationship to Ashley?
>>SETH STUTMAN: Okay, so my name is Seth. Ashley has been my co-host now for about a
>>KATRIN KERN: Yes. Your most positive memory and what it means to you?
>>SETH STUTMAN: Ashley, we have so much fun behind the scenes. It is often times all of
the laughs we share behind the scenes that is so much more fun than what we actually
do on the show
>>KATRIN KERN: The most amazing thing about Ashley?
>>SETH STUTMAN: Ashley, you are surprisingly hilarious. I think a lot of people don’t
get how goofy and playful you are.
>>KATRIN KERN: Nice. The most impressive thing about Ashley?
>>CHRIS KORBEL: Ashley Nicole, you are a renaissance lady, you are driven. You are not only a mom,
you are an exceptional television host, and friend. You can do it all.
>>KATRIN KERN: And finally your wish for Ashley?
>>SETH STUTMAN: Ashley Nicole, I wish you and your family a lifetime of success and
happiness. Cheers to you Ashley Nicole.
>>KATRIN KERN: That was so sweet Seth. That was so nice. I hope we have time toast back.
>>SETH STUTMAN: Oh, is this sparkling juice?
>>KATRIN KERN: It is sparkling apple juice.
>>SETH STUTMAN: It is delicious. All right I want to thank – Oh, she is good.
>>KATRIN KERN: She is doing it and she has got it.
>>ASHLEY NICOLE: Seth you are my…
>>CHRIS KORBEL: Okay, we will start off with the pinky.
>>ASHLEY NICOLE: Okay, the pinky. Seth you are my co-host and a very good friend. I don’t
have to, I can put this on my back.
>>KATRIN KERN: The fondest memory is.
>>ASHLEY NICOLE: The fondest memory is, oh, my goodness there’s so many. I think my
favorite memory is when we do our hand shake before we show every single day for the show.
>>SETH STUTMAN: The secret hand shake.
>>ASHLEY NICOLE: The secret hand shake.
>>KATRIN KERN: All right, cool.
>>CHRIS KORBEL: Now, that’s not a secret.
>>ASHLEY NICOLE: No, I know. But no one knows what it is.
>>SETH STUTMAN: We will do it one day.
>>CHRIS KORBEL: And what is quirky or amusing about him?
>>ASHLEY NICOLE: Seth… Oh, my goodness. He is so funny but Seth is, he is always is
in a good mood. Always, always, always and he always puts on the greatest music and dances
to it the office – no, that’s pretty good and it always makes me laugh. It puts me in
the good mood.
>>CHRIS KORBEL: And what is admirable? What is his good quality?
>>ASHLEY NICOLE: He has a lot of great quality. Seth is a wonderful, wonderful, co-host, co-worker,
a friend, and he is incredibly determined, and I wish only success for you and your future.